Theory

4 Important Factors in ENFJ Compatibility

Important factors that affect ENFJ’s compatibility with other personality types include the differences and similarities in communication styles, emotional needs, conflict resolution, and values and goals.

Let’s examine each of these factors in detail to understand how ENFJs behave as partners:

#1. Communication Styles

ENFJs are excellent communicators, effortlessly connecting with others and figuring out which approach will get them to open up. No personality type is immune to their charm, stemming from their warmth, empathetic nature, and enthusiasm.

Unsurprisingly, their partners also benefit from ENFJs’ natural knack for communication—it’s easy to build a serious relationship with someone so open and emotionally intelligent. However, while Protagonists will gladly take charge of communication, they expect the same sensitivity and empathy from their partners.

That’s not to say ENFJs immediately give up on those who can’t match their communication skills. As natural mentors, Protagonists enjoy teaching others and will gladly help those who can’t communicate as effectively as them.

However, this is a double-edged sword—some personalities will be grateful and enjoy the process, while others might consider ENFJs overbearing. Ultimately, it’s up to the Protagonists to recognize if their efforts are worth the trouble.

#2. Emotional Needs

ENFJs have high emotional needs that their partners can satisfy by showing affection, supporting them, and openly discussing their feelings, dreams, and desires. At the same time, ENFJs give as much as they receive, ensuring their loved ones are happy, comfortable, and cared for.

In fact, Protagonists often find providing for their partner more fulfilling than receiving their partner’s love and affection. They like to feel needed and to see that others trust them—this reassures them that they matter to their loved ones. That’s why they gravitate toward emotionally available personalities who aren’t afraid to be vulnerable and share their inner worlds.

#3. Conflict Resolution

Although they don’t enjoy conflict, ENFJs understand that it is unavoidable in relationships and that successful conflict resolution can strengthen their bond with their partner. As a result, they approach it directly and prefer to handle it in a collaborative manner.